Tuesday, 18 January 2011

What is success?

I am a list person.

I wrote a list yesterday about the things I need to focus on (there is a point for blogging... blog more regularly! AND read more blogs!) and this morning I had to write a list again, this time about my life... what do I want to achieve. The list is a bit depressing, because the things I put down are really complicated and would not happen overnight, so I'm not sure it's a good list, as it will only make me feel worse and would not give me any power to move in the direction of completing them.

The most important point, which I would like to talk (or better say think "loudly") about is SUCCESS.

What does success mean to you all?

What I wrote is this: I want to be able to have a nice amount of income from my handmade business which is enough for a comfortable life. Once I have this, I feel successful.

I'm not happy about this. Does it mean I don't feel successful if I don't have it? Like now... Am I a loser? Well, right now I feel like one. : (  And it puts me down as I really-really hate to lose! I'm a fighter and don't just give up things easily. But what can you do when you try your best and still not happening? I have to try even harder I think.... Still don't know how though.

Or does it count if I have a happy child and doing it all alone? Am I done with that and any little extra just adds to it? I'm not sure... It may be the single mum thing, that I want to be successful in every area of life. But boy, it's hard!

So let's see... my plan-list for this year to help me to achieve my goals is:
- Do something really BIG, something courageous, something really different (need to think about this now)
- Set big goals, but be happy for the little steps during the way
- Look back at last year, if there is anything I did right, I have to keep on doing it, or correct those which are not right
- Organise some more quality time programs with my little sweetheart, to make her even more happy... in case the first plan doesn't work, I'll still be a good mother : )

What is on your success list? Are you feeling successful? Hope to hear loads of opinions : )


  1. A loser is someone who has no dreams, hopes or aspirations. You know where you want to go, just appreciate the little steps in getting there. And over time your goals may change anyway. You are not alone nor are you a loser. You are a successful parent, an artistic and imaginative individual and you are a an all round very nice person - I think that's success right there!

  2. Oh my, hun, you made me cry! Thank you so much! xxx

  3. ditto what Diomo said, can understand you wanting to count your business as successful when you bring in a comfy income but think you are already successful as you have a beautiful child who loves you so you are richer than many in so many more ways. Taking time out to just recoup by doing something else you enjoy is the way forward, no matter what size the steps at least you are going forward! Doing something mad like bungee for charity, dont want to suggest parachute jump (dont like that idea meself but do something like that and raise money for a worthy cause, double feel good buzz!

  4. Thanks for the comment! Have been thinking about this a lot since I wrote it and feel a lot better already! : )
    Not going to jump from anywhere, lol, don't worry. : )
    Beata x